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Hindsight is 20/20 so they say, but how often do we think about who we were when we were younger? If we had the chance to talk to our younger self about things with the knowledge and experience we have now, what would we say?  I pose this question and invite you to join the conversation and submit your answer and I will post it here. 

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...SADNESS


You will experience sadness because without it you will not know what joy is. It will come from many places, a broken heart, betrayal, seeing the worst in others and the world, loss of people you love, the end of friendships and for reasons that seem unknown to you. There will be some tough times as a child and throughout adulthood but you are stronger than you know and resilient, you can and will persevere.

Embrace sadness as you do joy and know it is ok. You are sensitive, and that is one of the best qualities about you, but it makes you emotionally vulnerable. The hardness of life and the world will affect you, and while it will make you sad, it will also make you empathetic to others, even those you do not know.

There will be times when sadness will feel like a blanket that is so heavy you cannot throw it off when it becomes too much, and it will ask for help. Despite your sadness, at times you will recognize that it can be harder for others and you will use this for perspective. Others will find comfort from you in their times of sadness because you understand. You will appreciate moments more and take for granted less the fragileness of happiness and joy.

Remember, sadness, like every other emotion you have plays a part in your life’s journey and there are lessons to be learned from it so you can grow into the person you are meant to be.


WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF ABOUT SADNESS?

Use the form to the left and include the subject SADNESS and I will post it here with only your first initial and last name.


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...TRUST


You have alway's been trusting, it is one of the greatest things about who you are. This does not mean you are naive, it means that you give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove you shouldn't. 

Sometimes you will be taken advantage of and hurt, but it is ok because you will learn from these experiences and they will make you a better person. You will learn to listen to the little voice inside you and be able to use it to temper the level of trust you give up front. You will also learn that when someone takes advantage of your trusting nature it is ok to withdraw that trust and sometimes exorcise them from your life if that is what it takes.


Most of all, trust yourself and trust your instincts and when in doubt find the quiet place inside and listen to that little voice, it will tell you what to do.


RESPONSES

“Get your validation from yourself, not others. You'll be released from the need of external approval and will be able to channel your interactions more productively.” ~D. Burton

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...RESPECT


First and foremost, respect yourself.

Respect does not mean subservience to another; it means treating others the same way we expect them to treat us. Don't allow anyone to treat you with less respect than they expect of you, or less respect than you are giving them. 


Age does not mean that someone should or should not have your respect, or, that they should not respect you. Just because someone has lived years does not mean they deserve respect based solely on that. It also does not mean that someone who has little life experience does not deserve respect just because they are young.

Many people will cross your path. Treat them kindly and with common courtesy. Positions and titles are not the same as the people that hold them. Have respect for the title and position even if you do not have respect for the person. Someday it may be you.

You will encounter disrespect but know that it is not about you, it is about the other person and what they think of themselves. Even when you yourself are disrespected to not respond in-kind. Always be the better person.

Have empathy. I know you will; for those who have less than admirable moments and act out of emotion or are influenced by what is happening to them. Just recognize the difference 
from an isolated incident and who people are because...

"When people show you who they really are, believe them."  ~Maya Angelou

Let it and 
them
 go if you need too, it's ok.

People who take the time to know you, who care about you, will have respect for you because you respect yourself and them. 

RESPONSES


"Everybody deserves it. And the disrespectful persons need it the most." A. Chauffrut

"Respect yourself as much as you respect others." ~A. Moore

"Respect others even when they don't deserve it because it is a lesson in kindness which builds your character." ~C. Haynes

"Respect, along with trust, is the most important part of any relationship....including your spouse!" ~ K. Kanesfsky

"Respect is the most valuable currency. Period." ~ A. Bassham

"Treat others the way they want to be treated. Not how I want to be treated." ~Y. Moore

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